Friday, February 01, 2013

CrossFit Kids: Creating a Class Culture

I am slowly getting back into a regular blogging routine, hooray!

One thing I really want to do is develop a series of posts about my newest venture as a CrossFit Kids coach and program developer. I have so many thoughts and ideas swirling around in my head, and I know it will help to get it out there somehow. I'm also hopeful it will help the parents of the kids in my program (current and future) get to know me a bit better, and of course, it gives me a focus for blogging.

So fair warning to any readers (if you're still out there) of my blog -- this blog is going to be extra-full of CrossFit talk for the time being. :) But there will also be Positive Discipline talk, and parenting talk, and business development talk, too.

The CrossFit Kids post I wrote last week was mostly just a Yay! Look what I've been up to! kind of post. Today and in the future I want to get more specific and write just about one aspect of the program. The first topic is about creating a the kind of class atmosphere I want us to have, or class culture, as I think of it.

Just as our Kids classes are run in a similar way to the adult classes (with a warmup and a WOD, though we get to play games in CF Kids!), I really want our Kids classes to have the same general atmosphere as the adult classes.

A big part of what kept me going back to CrossFit, especially at the beginning, was the support and encouragement of the coaches and other gym members. Personally, this has done wonders for my mental health and my attitude about what I am capable of accomplishing. To feel like everyone around you is truly rooting for you, truly on your side and wants you to succeed . . . it's such a wonderful, empowering feeling.

In our adult classes, we cheer for each other, commiserate over struggles (aka "goats"), and swap ideas for improving ourselves. We don't denigrate each other and we don't allow people to denigrate themselves either. We share our excitement for this CrossFit thing we all love (well, maybe except for burpees), and we celebrate our achievements. Lisbeth Darsh describes this so well:

Here [at our CrossFit gym], we know that even if we finish last in the workout, there will still be folks cheering for us. In fact, they’ll probably cheer harder than they did for the first-place finisher. Because CrossFit is about effort, as well as achievement.

(Go read the whole post. It's awesome. Especially go read it if you think it all sounds like some kind of made up marketing BS. Because it's not.)

This isn't unique to our box, as you can see, but I happen to think our box does this very well. It's part of the general CrossFit culture, and in fact, I will tell anyone reading this that if you go to a CF box and you DON'T experience this feeling, find another box, and quickly.

It's very important to me that our Kids classes to have the same atmosphere, and I think we are off to a good start. Below are a few strategies I'm taking to foster the type of class culture I want us to have.


The WODs

I learned early on in our practice classes that sometimes games and WODs can backfire if the kids are set up to compete against each other. Some kids are super competitive, and others aren't, by nature. But everyone can get their feelings hurt if they "lose" a WOD or get tagged too many times in Freeze Tag.

To that end, I generally set up the WODs to be AMRAP (As Many Rounds/Reps As Possible in a given amount of time). That means each kid works for the same amount of time, and there isn't an opportunity for someone to "win" the WOD by finishing first. AMRAPs also mean that nobody is just sitting around doing nothing and getting bored while the other kids are still working. Kids are free to track their rounds or reps during an AMRAP if they want to, but that is completely optional.

However, I don't want to exclusively run AMRAP WODs either, because that means the kids won't have a chance to experience CrossFit's culture of cheering for everyone, and maybe even cheering harder for the person finishing last, as Lisbeth mentioned.

Here's a picture of this very phenomenon taken at last year's CrossFit Games (thanks to this lovely blog):


Having been the last person finished with a WOD on more than one occasion, I can personally attest to how great it is to have your own personal cheering section full of people who want you to do your very best.


So, on days when the WOD is not an AMRAP, I remind the kids that we are a team and we cheer each other on. The minute the first kid finishes the WOD, I encourage him/her to clap and cheer on their teammates (because I really want them to view each other as teammates, not competitors). As the others finish, they join in on the cheering, until all of the kids are done.

I was delighted when, last week, the kids started cheering for each other all on their own. One by one, they finished their WOD and then just started clapping and shouting the names of the kids who were still working. That made me feel so happy! They really got it!


Games

Usually the games I run in the classes are set up deliberately to promote a team-like atmosphere, so we are doing a lot of tag variations and I've experimented with some explicit team-building types of games such as Cross the Swamp (which wasn't such a hit, really).

I like games set up to allow the kids who get tagged out to get right back into the game by performing a few repetitions of whatever skill we are focusing on. So there's still the aspect of being tagged out, but then you aren't just sitting on the sidelines watching everyone else play. You earn your way back into the game with a few squats or whatever and the fun ensues.

When I do run a game that involves direct competition, with clear winners and losers, I try to set it up so that it's a team against team type of competition. Again this promotes teamwork, and if you are on the losing side, at least you're not alone. The main reason for doing this, though, is because I have learned that it's too hard for me to pay attention to scores and rules infractions and sloppy form brought on by a desire to win. When there are only two teams, I actually can monitor the kids more easily.

I am not anti-competition, by the way. I am not a helicopter parent or coach who thinks that children need to be protected from their feelings of disappointment or struggle. In fact, if you want to learn how to cope with the disappointment of losing (or winning without gloating!), you need to lose sometimes (or win).

The fact of the matter is that I only have the kids for 30 minutes, and the class is primarily meant to be a fun way for them to be physically active. So I am trying to balance this with the competition aspect, give the kids chances to learn to be competitive in such a way that their focus is on trying to do their best and not on trying to beat someone else, and to encourage each one of them to view the others as teammates to root for.

As I wrote this post, I discovered that I have a lot more to say on the subject of competition and kids, but I'll save that for a future blog post.


What's Next

I think it would be great to have something visible hanging up in the gym that states what we are all about, a Declaration of CrossFit Kids, if you will. Here are a couple of the ideas I have for this already:

CrossFit Kids --

  • Work Hard
  • Have Fun
  • Cheer for Each Other
  • Follow the Safety Rules (See what I did there? Heh.)

Etc.

What I'd really, really like is to spend about 5 minutes with the kids and have us come up with a list together. Some kids come to most of the clases; others I only see once a week or even less often than that. I bet if I went over this with each class for a week I would probably be able to get input from most of the kids.

Because, you know, what if I can't think up everything we should be all by myself? I need their help! Also, why should I do all the work? :D

In all seriousness, if the kids feel like this list is theirs, that it belongs to them because they helped create it, then they will be more likely to stick to whatever we put on there. The creating of this sign is itself a team-building exercise, and of course, we will have some words on there that reinforce the idea that we support each other.

So yeah, I think I'll make this a goal for February. Just gotta find a white board to put our list on.



I think that's all I've got to say for now. At this point in our program, after one official month, I think we are off to a great start in developing and maintaining a supportive class culture. I'm confident that this type of atmosphere will keep the kids feeling welcome, included, motivated to try their best, and willing to cheer each other on. And I will definitely have more to say on this topic as our program continues and changes in the future.








Thursday, January 24, 2013

The One About CrossFit Kids

I am excited to announce that I have been, in my spare time, developing a CrossFit Kids program at CrossFit Kennesaw!

After I wrapped up my certification classes last fall, Chris (CFK owner and coach extraordinaire) and I started talking seriously about a Kids program. It's something we've discussed here and there in passing over the last couple of years, but we got pretty seriously on the plan almost as soon as I'd finished the certification course in October.

I had some trepidation about it, but here's the thing. I'm braver than I used to be, more resilient, eager to take on challenges, and less afraid to screw up. And CrossFit has a lot to do with this. So when this new challenge presented itself, how on earth could I not even give it a try?

Mostly I was concerned that it would be difficult to fit into my schedule and I was also nervous about my ability to coach. Sure, I've taught lots of things to adults and kids alike, but still. So far, the schedule we've come up with seems to be working just fine, and I think I could handle another class or two a week possibly.

I'm doing fine at coaching, yay! In fact, each class is kind of mostly awesome fun for 30 straight minutes. I've made some mistakes, sure, but like Anne Shirley, "I never make the same mistake twice." (Well, not often anyway.)

What I lacked in direct coaching experience, I think I made up for with all of my experience creating businesses and departments and work processes and marketing plans from scratch. Not to mention, I do have a fair bit of practice interacting with kids between the ages of 5 and 12, the very exact ages of the initial population of athletes in our Kids program.

Also, CrossFit is a big passion of mine, and I'd already learned a lot about coaching, both in and out of class. I was eager to try out some of the things I'd practiced and read about, and see if I could share this passion with others.

And not least -- I have always, ALWAYS tried to keep up with work skills that are directly transferrable to "real" jobs. I have a great job right now. I'm a homeschooling mom. But that's a job with an expiration date, and I have been determined from the outset that I will not be left wondering what to do with myself when the kids are self-sufficient and, hopefully, out of my house. So creating this program is the perfect opportunity to keep those skills sharp, while offering me the flexibility to bring the kids with me (in fact, Ryan and Morgan are students in the class).

The classes have been great fun. The kids are engaged, and hilarious, and definitely always keep me on my toes. And that's pretty much how I like all kids to be. I'm enjoying the challenge of keeping the classes interesting while also balancing the need to review the skills and teach them how to do them well. I expect this is something I'll get better at over time. I'm spending a lot of my free time watching videos online and getting ideas for fun group games to play.

Chris and I are so far pretty much exactly on the same page with our vision and goals for the program, and I am grateful to him not only for the chance to try this out, but for the trust he has shown in me, as he has been giving me pretty wide latitude over the specifics of the program. It's especially awesome that I think we both feel comfortable being straight up and honest with each other. It helps that we've known each other a couple of years and, of course, that we're both pretty awesome people.

We both have TONS of ideas for the future, how to grow the program and keep it fresh and interesting at the same time, while integrating it into the larger community that exists at CF Kennesaw. Our biggest challenge now is to keep things going at a pace we can handle and to grow the program in a smart way.

So that's been my big adventure since mid-November! I'd like to blog about the experience some more in the future -- what running a class is like, challenges, how Positive Discipline fits in with running such a class, what I'm learning, creating and executing a business plan such as this. And I'll do that, just as soon as I can.

In the meantime, if you have any questions about our program, drop me a line. You can find me here, on FB, or email me. Because I have an official email address now. :D

Monday, January 14, 2013

Race Around My World

Early yesterday morning, I ran in a 5K race down in Atlanta.

I don't know why I keep doing this to myself, but I do. I don't actually enjoy running, you know. But there's just something exciting about paying some money and getting a t-shirt and lining up with thousands of my closest friends while loud music plays, followed by trying not to trip all over them while we jockey for position on streets usually reserved for motor vehicles.

There's just something about that, see?


I ran right under that bridge, toward the Capitol building in the distance.

Yesterday's race started and ended at Turner Field (home of the Braves), and we all ran on the Olympic bridge under the Olympic rings commemorating our city's hosting the 1996 Olympics. Brendan and I walked down that very bridge -- wow, 16.5 years ago -- on our way to watch Australia and Cuba play a baseball game at the old Fulton County Stadium. That stadium is now a parking lot, the same parking lot I plopped down in the middle of yesterday, with thousands of my closest friends, to eat a banana and drink some hot chocolate after the race.

I think part of the reason I've enjoyed these little races, apart from just making sure I can still complete them without dying, is that they offer me a renewed chance to experience landmarks and views that I sometimes don't notice or appreciate much anymore. 

As best I can tell, I was sitting near where first base was at the old Fulton County Stadium. Didn't get a picture of my perspective, but rather, the more important thing -- my hot chocolate.
I've never run a race in Atlanta, and it was nice to be trotting down the streets I'm familiar with, to see the gold dome of the Capitol building (where once I went to a protest in the rain, and another time a video of me talking about Ayn Rand was played), to pass a parking garage I once parked in for an appointment at Georgia State, to reconnect with some memories, big and obscure, from my past.

And because I love this reconnection so much, I'm going to do it more often. I'm going to search for 5K races, mud runs, CrossFit competitions, etc. in areas that I love, have loved, or maybe even have dreamed of going due to some other connection. I am going to go to these races and experience these places anew, from the road, while sweating and trying not to trip over people.

I had this idea last summer, after running a second or third 5K in my own little town, running on streets I drive at least a couple times a week and through a park we visit quite often. After that last race here in Kennesaw, I made a list of places I'd like to visit and race. So I'm going to put my list here, as a reminder. I have been to most of the places in person, but there are a few places I'm connected with only via imagination/soul, and those count, too. I suspect different readers will be able to figure out the sentimental connection for different places. 

These aren't really in any particular order:

  • Groton/New London, Connecticut
  • Newport News, Virginia
  • Charleston, South Carolina
  • Indianapolis, Indiana
  • Plainfield, Indiana
  • Fishers, Indiana (and Conner Prairie Farm)
  • Carmel, Indiana
  • West Lafayette, Indiana
  • Middletown, Pennsylvania
  • Carlisle, Pennysylvania
  • Granby, Connecticut
  • Simsbury, Connecticut
  • Lake Jackson, Texas
  • Houston, Texas
  • Galveston, Texas
  • Jackson, Michigan
  • Aurora, Ohio
  • Cumberland/Vinings area of Atlanta
  • Acworth, Georgia
  • Kennesaw, Georgia (done this several times already)
  • Atlanta, Georgia (done!)
  • Ramona, California
  • Lewiston, Idaho
  • Alexandria, Virginia
  • The Wisconsin Dells
  • Mineral Point, Wisconsin
  • The Outer Banks, North Carolina
  • Asheville, North Carolina
  • Miami Beach, Florida
  • Orlando/Lake Buena Vista, Florida
  • Blewett Pass in Washington
  • Savannah, Georgia
  • Blue Ridge/Ellijay, Georgia
  • Boston, Massachusetts
  • Chicago, Illinois
  • Portland, Oregon :D
So I guess that's it for now. I might add to this list as I think of other places. You know how I love to make lists and check things off, and now I feel like I need to get going!

This is obviously not a short-term kind of thing, but more of a long-term travel/race goal. I think it will be fun to try to accomplish some kind of race or competition in or near all of these places. When we travel, I'm going to start checking the local race schedules. For example, we're going to Chicago this summer, so there might be Chicago/Wisconsin possibilities. 

If you happen to live near any of these places and know of an annual race that's fun to do, let me know. 

Wednesday, January 02, 2013

2012 Year in Review

You didn't think I'd forget about my annual Year in Review, did you? Not. A. Chance.

Especially after this year, because, holy wow, what a year!


2012: The Year of the Houses


January

  • I ran a 5K race on January 1!
  • As you might recall, we started looking for a new house in December 2011. On New Year's Eve 2011, exactly one year ago as of this writing, we toured four homes, loved one, and put in an offer on it on January 2, 2012.
  • The offer was accepted, with some down to the wire last minute drama (after some bidding drama), which foreshadowed the drama to come.
  • We learned that you have to have a lot of nerve when applying for a mortgage if you own one or more small businesses because you have to turn in about eleventy-thousand more pieces of paper than otherwise.
  • We also learned that January is the suckiest time to apply for a mortgage because the mortgage company somehow wants you to have completed your tax returns for the past year, even though this is actually impossible. But they don't care that it's impossible, and should you suggest to them that this is impossible and/or that they are being somewhat unreasonable, they will pretend not to hear you in a fingers-in-the-ears-"la-la-la-I-can't-hear-you" kind of way.
  • I started The Outlaw Way programming at CrossFit. While I'm no longer following this programming, I found it very beneficial and loved it. I learned two important things thanks to Outlaw: the value of mobility work (and the MobilityWOD website), and I improved my Olympic weightlifting technique by leaps and bounds. Seriously.
  • Morgan was invited to a special gymnastics class for girls who wanted to improve their form and technique, and started going to gymnastics twice a week.


February

  • Right. So the mortgage stuff finally got settled and we were on track to close at the end of the month.
  • But about 10 days before close, we learned that there was a Surprise Lien on the house because the seller had been suckered in by some scam artists who had convinced him, for some reason, somehow, to create a trust with them (there were three bad guys), and unbeknownst to him, they helped themselves to about $75,000 of equity on the house. All of our plans were put on hold for nearly three weeks while lawyers and asshole bad guy scam artists and realtors and mortgage companies and title companies and everyone else involved in the deal had a collective freak-out. 
  • In the end, the bad guys walked away with $10,000 of that man's money, and screwed up all of our timetables for everything, and made it so I could hardly sleep at night.
  • Oh yeah, and the main bad guy actually wanted to attend our closing. I think in his twisted evasive mind he'd convinced himself that he had actually helped this man sell the house to us. The real estate attorney prevented that. I'm not sure what I or Brendan might have said to him if he'd shown up.
  • I kept thinking, Oh, this will be funny one day, right? Somehow, nearly a year later, this whole thing just doesn't seem funny at all. 
  • Here's the thing: we love the house. It's great for our family.
  • I channeled my frustration about the Surprise Lien into CrossFit and managed to transform my rage into kipping pull ups, realizing a goal I'd had since I started CF. So there was that.
  • I signed up for the CrossFit Open and started that competition. 



March

  • We closed on March 9, and because the absurdity didn't stop with the bad guy scam artists, we learned that the seller hadn't bothered to move out of the house before closing as agreed. Later that day, when we went to the house to look at it, as the owners, it was apparent that he hadn't even bothered to hardly pack, and his adult son laid on his bed watching television the whole time and did nothing to help his dad. Somehow he managed to get his stuff out of the house in two days (for which we received some recompense), but nevertheless, that meant we had less than one week before our moving date, when we were supposed to have had well over two weeks in order to get things ready.
  • My wonderful mother-in-law and father-in-law came down to help with the kids during the move on March 17, and they took care of kids, us, lined shelving and cleaned windows and swept and soothed sad children who were traumatized that we were moving. We can never repay them.
  • Oh yeah, this entire time we were dealing with small people who were very, very VERY sad about leaving the only home they'd ever lived in. I've found that I am called upon to parent at the most inconvenient times, don't you? 
  • I kept doing Outlaw and competed in the Open, coming in 700-something-th in my region, which wasn't too bad, considering. I needed to do CF so that I didn't kill people, see.
  • Also, the kids kept going to homeschool co-op, and gymnastics, and other activities. Our lives didn't completely stop while all this was going on.
  • Morgan celebrated her 7th birthday at her gymnastics gym with puppy dog cupcakes. 
  • We had lots of ATLOS stuff going on the whole time, too, such as our monthly Happy Hour, and a hike, and at least one other social thing that escapes my memory. Also, planning and preparation for the conference in May was well underway by this point.




April

  • Now that all of our crap was out of the old house and into the new, it was time to figure out what to do with the old house. We'd intended to put it up on the market after doing a bit of work on it, and hired a friend to get some of that work done. And we still had a good bit of crap at the old house, so I was still running back and forth from the old to the new a few times a week.
  • On April 4th, I had a septic tank peopleguy out to inspect the septic tank, and let's just say I'm still not over the sticker shock, nor the OMGWTF-ed-ness of what happened that day. It wasn't that bad, but I know more about the personal lives of the people who owned this house before us than I ever needed to know.
  • Also, the previous owner came by once or twice for a couple of things he'd left behind (like a pool table) and told me things about the house, and specifically the state of the carpets, that I wish like anything I could un-know.
  • In related news, we had new carpets put in the new house.
  • Ryan celebrated his 10th--TENTH--birthday with a laser tag party that was super awesome fun. I'm still getting over the fact that my baby is TEN. Sigh.
  • Brendan and I celebrated 20 years together (dating, not marriage), which sounds like a lot of years for people as young as we are.
  • Sean finally weaned (he'd have done so sooner, but our move required a bit of a relapse), and for the first time in nearly 11 years, I wasn't pregnant or nursing anyone. It's a joyous feeling!
  • We went to the Renaissance Festival and I'm so glad we did. I knew if we didn't get to it early in the season, we'd miss it.
  • Morgan was invited to try out for her gymnastics gym's team program.
  • We made the decision to get a puppy this month (I wrote about what all went into the decision later, here.) There were pups on the way, due in June, and we had the first pick of the females. Because, you know, I figured I had nothing else going on, so why not get a dog? 



May

  • Another busy month. We started working out a deal with former neighbors of ours to lease-purchase our old home and I have to say, it was a very pleasant process to work out the details and get things settled all around. Amazing how that works when everyone is trying to be fair and make sure the agreement is good for each party.
  • My parents came for a visit in early May, ostensibly to celebrate their birthdays, and I'm convinced that if they hadn't come, all of our books would still be on boxes and not on shelves (thanks!).
  • I announced the end of the Objectivist Round Up, a project I really enjoyed working on, but it was time to end it. It would end in July after exactly 5 years of weekly editions.
  • Brendan and I LEFT THE KIDS AT HOME with our friends and flew up to Chicago over Mother's Day weekend for a family wedding. It was so much fun, and the kids had a good time, too.
  • Brendan had his birthday, but for the life of me, I can't remember what we did. :/
  • Morgan was accepted into the team program! And she had a mini-meet (her first) and did very well.
  • Most of the month was filled up with ATLOSCon stuff, and I have to say, this year's conference was the smoothest to date in terms of how the classes and events flowed. As always, we learned a lot about what works, what doesn't, and will be making improvements for 2013.
  • I actually sang and danced at ATLOSCon, and I actually even had fun doing it.
  • Met lots of new people at the conference, and I hope they all come back next year. 
  • Oh, and our conference surpassed our expectations, and it was generally totally awesome, and you should really come to ATLOSCon 2013!



June

  • About two minutes after the conference was over, the kids and I packed up the minivan for a road trip to DC. My lovely grandmother, who lives in California, would be on the East Coast for a few days preparing for her Mediterranean Cruise (ahem...I want to be just like her when I grow up!). So the kids and I drove up to see her and visit. My brother and sister-in-law would be there, too, and they actually drove back down to Georgia after the DC visit and came to stay at our house for a couple of days.
  • While in DC, we went to the Spy Museum, which was super lots of fun. We also saw the Archives, where Sean staged a sit-in style protest over the line length, to the amusement of all.
  • We gave audiobooks a real try on this trip, and to my surprise, we became obsessed. We started at the third Harry Potter book, and ended up getting through all of them over the next few months. We're going to start LOTR next.
  • I did the CrossFit Total for the first time and got 550, hitting a deadlift PR of 255#. 
  • I ran a local 5K at kind of the last minute, and PR'd that at 31:45 (which, trust me, is BOOKING IT for me).
  • Sean turned FOUR on the 20th, and requested geysers for his birthday. So we had a party for him here, and did Diet Coke/Mentos geysers, to the delight of all.
  • A consequence of turning 4 years old, though, is booster shots. I don't think either one of us has recovered from that appointment yet. I still say they need to have margarita machines available in the doctor's office for moms who have had to hold their kids down for shots.
  • A litter of puppies -- 3 females and 4 males -- was born on the 25th. Our dog plan seemed more concrete somehow, with weekly updates and pictures from the breeders.
  • We took a trip to the beach with our friends Kelly, Aaron, and Livy. We had a good time, even though a tropical storm coming in made it impossible to swim in the ocean past the first day.
  • Kelly and I were interviewed on Philosophy in Action about parenting. It was fun!



July

  • We went to our town's 4th of July festival. I'd never been before (Brendan took the older kids when Sean was a brand new baby), and it was a fun way to spend the holiday.
  • Somewhere in this general timeframe, I learned that I'm going to be an aunt next February! WOOHOO!
  • On July 6th (yes, I remember the date), at Kelly's house, I accidentally did a strict pull up on her pull up bar. So I've got those now, too (you know, assuming that I am properly warmed up and all).
  • I'd planned to use the downtime in July--we had nothing on the schedule apart from Morgan's gymnastics classes--to unpack and settle in. Because really, we hadn't done much on the new house, having handled a couple of emergency-type things early on, but then spending most of our time and energy on getting out of the old house and getting the lease-purchase agreement settled (which we did and July was the first month we had tenants). 
  • So for a couple of weeks, I did some unpacking and settling.
  • And then the air conditioning started flaking out and it looked like we were in for some big repairs there (thank goodness for the home warranty policy that the seller had transferred to us). It really didn't get too hot, believe it or not, because we are nestled in among lots of shady trees, but it was still sticky and uncomfortable.
  • And then Brendan's appendix decided to end their lifelong relationship on the 17th. And we learned some things about extended hospital stays and Type 1 diabetes (spoiler: even medical professionals get confused between T1 and T2 diabetes).
  • So suddenly, I was stuck in a house without working A/C and running back and forth to the hospital or pharmacy or doctor's offices with three worried kids. 
  • The rest of July was a blur.
  • I know we watched some of the Olympics.
  • I also know I pulled a calf muscle about a week before a CrossFit competition. I mean I pulled it so badly I couldn't actually walk on it for a couple of days. So the kids had two parents in convalescent-mode there for a while.
  • July. Not our best effort.



August

  • By the time the Festivus Games rolled around, I had recovered enough to participate, though I had to not complete one of the events because I didn't want to risk re-injuring myself. It was the sensible thing to do, but I still hate that I didn't finish that event. Still, I got 4th place in the rowing event (Intermediate Division)--I rowed 2K in 8:30, which was REALLY HARD. So I'm really proud of that.
  • During this same period, Brendan developed a secondary infection as a result of the surgery and probably the blood sugar screwups, so he was spending a lot of time and energy resting and healing and trying to avoid another hospital stay. And he did manage that, so things were looking up!
  • On the 9th, we went and picked out our puppy. We got Miss Purple, who is now known throughout the land as Penny Lane.
  • The kids and I went to the Tennessee Aquarium one day, to spend one of our final whole days out of the house before the puppy came home with us. LOVE the TN Aquarium.
  • What else? Oh, yes. This was fun. One day, pre-puppy, the kids and I were sitting around the family room and one of the kids noticed a mouse in the fireplace. To make a long story short, we caught some mice, in and out of the house, and had to decontaminate the entire pantry and most of the kitchen cabinets from all the mouse poop everywhere. We had to revamp our entire food storage operation, and to be honest, we still haven't put everything back where it belongs, partly because I'VE BEEN BUSY, OKAY? and partly because I have this (probably irrational) fear that the second we put everything back the mice will return and I'll have to do it all over again.
  • In related news, I learned that I really really hate mice. Like a lot. Before this, I was merely neutral. Now, notsomuch.
  • On the 18th, we brought Penny home to join our family, and that has been a whole blog-worthy adventure in itself. She's a lot lot lot like a toddler, only bigger, and more likely to eat boxes of Kleenex (only slightly more likely to eat bugs, as it happens).
  • We made the decision to put our mountain cabin up for sale this month, and it's still up for sale. It's a cute little cabin, so let me know if you're interested.
  • Two of our friends got married (to each other) and Morgan was a flower girl. An adorable flower girl.
  • I also announced, took, and have been on a blogging break since August. I miss blogging so much. But I needed to let some projects go and I realized that the stress I was putting on myself for not blogging to my standards and plans was no good. And I cut back on other non-essential stressors, too, and started spending more time with people in real life. Highly recommended. I do not intend to give up the blog, I will be back, but for now, I'm still mostly on hiatus. I'm a little nervous that I won't remember what we did, how our lives went, without the blog record, so I might just resume by doing a monthly update, for my own memory.



September

  • We had a few friends over for Labor Day, and that was loads of fun.
  • I spent a ton of time running the puppy back and forth to the vet for shots and a couple episodes of diarrhea and other fun puppy stuff. And I spent even more time potty training the puppy (she was well and truly trained within the first month of coming home) and doing other training with her, too. We hired someone to come and give us family training lessons in our home, and while that was pricey, I'm glad we did it. And then we signed her up for puppy classes mostly so she could get a chance to visit and play with other dogs.
  • In September, I stopped following The Outlaw Way, which was fun but took up a lot of time, and went back to our regular CrossFit programming. Spending fewer hours at the gym freed up my time for puppy training.
  • I was supposed to do a mud run, but I got sick and couldn't go. :( Next year!
  • Homeschool co-op started back up and Morgan was still continuing with gymnastics.
  • Brendan finally got a completely clean bill of health after about two months of the whole appendix fiasco.
  • We some fun adventures with our friends, including a visit to Hillcrest Orchards, which is fun in a Tim Burton kind of way.
  • Brendan and I celebrated 17 years of marriage on the 16th, but didn't get to go out to celebrate it due to a sick kid (Sean, maybe?). And as of this writing, we still haven't gone out to dinner for our anniversary. Sigh.
  • On the weekend of the 22nd/23rd, I took the Level 1 CrossFit Trainer class and passed the test (only missed one question)! So I am now a CF L-1 Trainer, how about that?
  • Brendan's family came for a visit near the end of the month and we went roller skating! And watched Xanadu!
  • I started the Whole 30 for the first time and learned that even though dairy doesn't bother my stomach, I am probably better off without it. I also discovered the joys of Scotch eggs. And I also did a zillion dishes, because cooking all the time is a big pain in the butt.
  • Things started getting back to normal a bit, and calming down. They calmed down so much that Brendan started refocusing on getting another job, which he had begun to do right about the time his appendix asploded.




October

  • Really, one of our better months, maybe the best month. 
  • The puppy was coming along nicely and sleeping mostly through the night. She finished up all her puppy shots so I wasn't at the vet every five seconds, and she finished up her obedience classes. Probably I need to sign her up for more, because there are still a few areas that could be improved upon, but after the initial housetraining and how to teach the kids to be around her (think meta-training), I just didn't have the energy (or money) (or time). She's a pretty good dog, and we've been doing okay on our own, I think.
  • I feel like things settled down a bit. Our routine was fairly unimpeded--co-op, gymnastics, CrossFit, puppy management, etc.
  • We had our annual ATLOS Fall Picnic, and it is always lots of fun.
  • And then, Brendan landed a new job! A fantabulous job with a shorter commute, better benefits, a good fit for his skills. He'd really only been looking hard for a few weeks; maybe a month. 
  • His old job was soul-sucking and he was SO HAPPY to leave it. Only he hasn't completely left it--they never bothered to have anyone learn his (unique) job during the three years he was there (during which he only ever received one raise), so they have retained his services via Red Top Software (his freelance company) at quite a high rate per hour. :D (Though the downside is that he is spending all of that time he's saving with the new commute doing work for the other company.)
  • During the lull in between jobs, we were going to stay here and work on house projects. And probably that might have been the sensible thing to have done in most respects.
  • But instead, I asked one of my lovely friends to keep Penny for a few days, arranged to have the kitty boarded, and we took ourselves down to Orlando for a very very quick Disney World trip. Because that's how we roll.
  • I finally got a leather jacket and yes, leather jacket ownership is really all it's cracked up to be!
  • On the weekend of the 27th/28th, I took the CrossFit Kids course and I'm now a CrossFit Kids trainer, too!
  • Also on the 27th, Kelly and I took Morgan and Livy to see the US Olympics gymnastics team perform. It was amazing. Really lots of fun, especially because I did something just like that when I was a kid (saw Nadia Comaneci!).
  • We had a Halloween bash here, kind of. Actually the kids went to a neighborhood down the road, because our new neighborhood is so spread out that it's a lot for the little ones to walk. We had some of our new neighbors here, too, and it was nice to get to know them a bit better.
  • This was the month Brendan became obsessed with stilts, having acquired a set for his Halloween costume (Hagrid). Who knew it would become a Thing?




November

  • This was one of my most consistent months for going to CrossFit, and it was kind of awesome. I love when I can get there as often as I want to, and I try not to beat myself up when life interferes with those plans.
  • I learned about CrossFit Endurance and started adding interval training to my weekly routine. It made a difference, quickly, but I dropped it in December due to illness and schedule conflicts. Hoping to pick it back up again soon.
  • Brendan took the older kids on a camping trip with friends nearby. Sean, Penny, and I went up there for the s'mores and campfire, but returned home to our warm house and soft beds.
  • We had a party here for my 42nd birthday. I'm now the Answer.
  • My sister came for Thanksgiving, and it was one of the most relaxed fun Thanksgivings I've ever had. And I learned how to make dates stuffed with almonds wrapped in bacon (actually, that's the recipe, heh).
  • My sister, Morgan, and I ran/walked the Gobble Jog in Marietta on Thanksgiving morning. Morgan was super proud of finishing!
  • We discovered a park nearby that is wild and open and full of trails. It's super awesome.
  • I feel like there was more to November, but really, all I remember is a lot of running.




December


  • On December 1, we had our annual ATLOS Reason's Greetings Holiday Party. I dressed up fancy (not normally my thing), the first of 5 (FIVE) formal holiday gatherings for us. 
  • Other holiday parties: CrossFit Kennesaw, Brendan's new company (AMAZING, truly), some friends of ours, and then just last week, Kelly and Miranda and Livy hosted a Geek Christmas party, which was my favorite, I think. I actually wore a costume, if you can believe it (REALLY not normally my thing). I was Zoe Washburne (currently my profile pic on FB).
  • I also organized a mom's night out with some of my friends from homeschooling world. We really need to do that kind of thing more often.
  • I started doing practice classes for our new CrossFit Kids program (not all of the details have been formally announced yet, but email me if you want some information). SO MUCH FUN. It's going to be awesome. Really. :D Both Morgan and Ryan have enjoyed it a lot.
  • I attended a class about good running form at the gym and learned that, generally, I have pretty good running form. And I got some individual coaching to make it even better.
  • And I was sick for a lot of this month. :(
  • Morgan had her first official meet as part of the team program and did really well.
  • I discovered that I really miss writing about and talking about parenting (blog hiatus, sigh), so I started a Facebook group for Positive Discipline Objectivists. It's really taken off.
  • Our homeschooling routine is changing, too. We are doing more regularly scheduled activities here at home, and it should be interesting to see how this evolves in the future. 
  • Christmas was here, our first at the new house, and with lots of family! My parents drove from DC, and Brendan's mom, stepdad, and both brothers flew here. We did lots of family activities like watching movies (Uncle Tim introduced the kids to Men In Black) and baking cookies and, of course, running to the grocery store every two hours. 
  • Red Top Software has been doing well (see October) and we were able to get the kids an iPad Mini each for Christmas. It's been bliss, not having anyone ask to borrow my devices. This will play into some of our homeschooling routine, too.
  • Our year ended on a sad note. Ryan and Morgan and I had been out at CrossFit and the grocery store on New Year's Eve. When we got home, Ryan noticed our cat, Rhombus, was not acting well. We all gathered around her in the hallway and patted her some, and she did look awful. She jumped over Brendan's legs and ran downstairs. Things seemed semi-okay, so I popped in the shower for a bit. But by the time I got back out, she was gone. It was almost as if she was waiting for us all to be home and to visit with us for a bit before it happened. I guess she climbed up on her favorite box, and died. So it was quick. Needless to say, the last couple of days have been rough around here. It wasn't unexpected--she was nearly 17 years old, a pretty good run for a kitty. But still. Sigh.




What a year. One of my goals for 2013 is to reduce and eliminate unnecessary stress. I think not having to get a mortgage, deal with crazy people, or move to a new house will really help with that. See? Making progress already!

Also, can I tell you a secret (assuming anyone has actually made it this far)? I generally go through life feeling that I am unproductive. I know that this is not true--it's all here, the stuff I did, and I couldn't have done this stuff if I was a big old slacker. But this feeling of unproductiveness doesn't match reality, and so I'm going to work on that, too. And give myself a break--and time to relax, too. I'm generally pretty happy when I'm doing stuff and producing things, but I am going to work on being happy in those other times, too. :D

I hope your 2012 was a good one--maybe a bit less roller-coaster-y than mine, perhaps. And I wish you and yours a wonderful 2013. Can't wait to see what happens next!

PS. I was going to add lots of pictures, but I find I lack the motivation to do so just now. I might add some later. Otherwise, you can see a lot of them on the Facebooks.


Saturday, October 13, 2012

What I've been up to on my Blog Hiatus

I still think about blogging. A lot.

I even have a couple of posts half-composed in my head.

Still a bit short on time though, since I've been having so many fun and wonderful adventures in the last six weeks or so.

For example, I did this:



And I'll be doing more with that very, very soon.

:D

Monday, August 27, 2012

Hiatus

Not that this will come as a huge shock, but I'll be taking a break from the blog for the foreseeable future.

Simply, I have too much going on in 3D Land that I want to devote my time to, and I hate the feeling of neglected projects, like the blog, hanging over my head. So I'm giving myself permission to formally step away for a while.

Also, my desire to keep up with blogging has really changed in the last couple of years. For many years, this blog was the primary way I had of staying in touch with people who live in Internet Land. I met lots of people with shared interests and ideas--fellow food allergy and homeschooling parents, Objectivists, Positive Discipline/non-punitive parenting advocates, etc.--here on the blog. And sometimes we met in 3D Land, too.

We used to have long conversations in the comment threads here and on your blogs, too, remember? Because of the blog, I could converse with other adults during the days when I was taking care of newborns and listening to interminable speeches by 4 year olds (they can only hold my attention for so long, you know).

In the past couple of years, those internet conversations have changed venues, and now happen on Twitter and Facebook. It's super easy to link to an interesting or controversial news story in those two places (I used to link to such things here). It's quick and easy to chat with someone or get some advice or look at pictures of their kids on Twitter and FB. It's not so quick and easy to do here any more.

Also, I have this feeling that I have found my people. My circles were much, much smaller in 2005 when I started blogging. Now they are wide, and filled up with fun and interesting people. And I want to spend more time with my people, with a particular emphasis on the people who are here with me in 3D Land. It's not that I don't love my internet people, or want to get to know other interesting people via online channels.

It's just that there are TONS of great people right here in Atlanta and I want to see more of them, hang out with their families, talk, hike, be present in each others' lives a little more. (I hope they want that from me, too!) I have all my people, both here and online, and now that I've collected up a bunch of awesome folks, I want to, you know, be with them.

And the greatest people are right here in my house! We have been fighting one crisis after another all year long, and I want to pull back from non-essential activities that have become too distracting from the other things I want to be doing, such as settle into the house, do more math and projects with my kids, take more field trips, fix up the backyard so it's fit for human and puppy habitation, work more on ATLOS projects. And I want to have a fun but more calm last third of the year with all the people I love best.

So, the blog will be on hiatus for a while. I will still do a couple of updates here and there--it's not dead, just hibernating. And I will also be (and already have) stepping away from even Twitter and Facebook more (just in time for the election, hooray!), though I won't be dropping them altogether. I'm feeling insular, yes, but I am really only reprioritizing.

Anyway, give me a call or send an email if you want to come over and hang out, or meet up somewhere. And maybe one day I'll have more time and energy to devote to blogging, because of course, I'm still filled up with fascinating things to write about and I still very strongly believe that pretty much everyone can benefit from my opinion. :D

See ya!

Thursday, August 16, 2012

The One about the Dog

In just two days, we are going to bring home a sweet little puppy and make her part of our family.




She is an "English cream" golden retriever, and she was born on June 25, so she is coming to us at just about the 8 week mark.

I'd planned to write a post or two or four about how the work I put into researching and deciding what kind of dog and all of the hows and wherefores about training and diet and the myriad other considerations. . . but here we are, about to get her, and I haven't written at all what I thought I would.

Those of you who know us--or more specifically, Morgan--understand that this puppy has been a long time coming! She has been interested in dogs since before she was two years old, and anyone who has ever met her knows this. (Amirite?)

I've never counted myself as a "dog person" but I am, because of Morgan, really excited about our new puppy and Brendan and I are happy to be able to give her this experience, which I think will nourish her soul in a significant way. There's just no other way I can think of to describe it.

Mind you, this is not an altruistic decision--we are not getting this dog only for Morgan (this is a family dog), nor are we putting aside the considerations of ourselves and the others in our family, and considering only one person. While some of us are not quite as excited as Morgan (but who could be, really?), Brendan and I are doing this because we want this, too. I truly am excited about this puppy--perhaps because she will be in some ways the baby I will always have, since my own babies insist upon growing up, sigh. I'm looking forward to training her (I plan to put a lot of work into this dog) and having her be a fun companion for the kids and for Brendan and me. I want to have lots of fun with her.

Early in my breed research (I started this process a couple of years ago), I narrowed the breeds down to retrievers (or mixes) and/or poodles (or mixes), based on their general intelligence and family-friendliness (an essential with young children and older children who are skittish around dogs). I also did not want a small dog, because I know it's hard for children to restrain themselves in their eagerness to give love, and Sean is the kind of guy who doesn't know his own strength.

We decided to adopt a puppy instead of an older dog partly because I think it will be easier for all of us to bond with a young dog, especially Ryan, who has had a long time fear of dogs (which predates Morgan's arrival in our family, actually), though he has come a LONG LONG way and is no longer terrified of all dogs of any shape or size. I think it will also be easier for ME to bond with a puppy, since I know I will be her primary caregiver and leader. And, not being a dog person, I was wary of adopting a (probably well-deserving perfectly nice) older dog because I know that sometimes those dogs need a lot of loving work to help them settle in to a new family--and because I know I am not up to that task at this particular point in my dog career.

The timing of this decision is important, too. I needed to wait until Sean was thoroughly potty trained and out of babyhood. I know that realistically I only have it in me to potty train one thing at a time (though I suppose if I'd had twins I could have managed). Aside from the potty thing, I wanted Sean to be at a more independent stage of his existence in all areas, because I think that will be easier on both of us. And I didn't want to wait too much longer, because I wanted to get the dog while everyone was still young enough to be here with her and enjoy her for many years. So now seems like the right time--none of the kids are too old or too young. And neither am I too old! :D

I researched various breeders and shelters, and finally settled on the breeder (and breed) we chose after speaking with them and getting references. They are a homeschooling family with children about the same ages as my own kids, and the puppies would be getting used to children from the beginning. A very important consideration. VERY. I can talk more about how I settled on this family later, but I did do a lot of research. I don't know much about the difference (if any) between regular goldens and "English" goldens other than that the English goldens tend to be stockier and blockier in shape. I know some people like them because they tend to have lighter coats, but honestly, appearance of the dog is way down my list of priorities--temperament is my primary concern.

After we sent in our deposit, we learned that we were got the first pick of the females in the litter. The litter, 3 females and 4 males, was born on June 25 and we've been following the puppies' progress ever since via pictures and videos from the breeder.

Last Thursday we went there and met the sire and dam (both really sweet dogs, and gorgeous, too), and the three female puppies. They'd done temperament testing that day and the day before, and all three females pretty much scored in the mid-range on the dominance and responsive tests. It was difficult to choose, but we settled on Miss Purple because one of her sisters scored a lot lower in the adaptability stuff and the breeder's experience with that pup affirmed this tendency to be a bit slower to adapt to changes than her siblings. The other sister was extremely active (again, based on the breeders' experience with her) and while we want an active dog and I know goldens are certainly active, we thought Miss Purple might be a better fit for us than her more active sister, who was also jumping up a lot on Ryan and was maybe a little more dominant than Miss Purple.

So we didn't really choose Miss Purple as much as we eliminated her sisters from the competition. Each sister was really close in all of the temperament categories, and equally cute (though Miss Purple was by far the softest!) and friendly. Apparently there was more temperamental variance among the males of the litter--there was one really dominant puppy and a really shy one. Not so with the females. Anyway, you have to choose somehow, and I think Miss Purple is going to be a good fit for our family. :D

And her name isn't going to be Miss Purple--that's her code name given to her by the breeder. Her real name is going to be Penny Lane! We'll end up calling her Penny and I'm sure a ton of goofy nicknames that we'll happen upon as the years go by, but I think Penny Lane is the cutest name for a cute little pup ever. (If we'd gone with a male, he'd have been Sergeant Pepper.)

So we are knee-deep in puppy-proofing and puppy-planning and puppy-related-purchasing, and have been for several weeks. We've been preparing in other ways, too, besides deciding on which kind of puppy to get and which breeder and which puppy in the litter. We've been reading books (some especially for kids) and watching videos and talking about how our lives will change after Penny joins our family. We have a plan for Rhombus (our 16 year old grumpity kitty) and the things we'll do to show her we still love her and how to watch her around Penny. We have a diet plan (raw! I'll write more about that later). We have a basic general discipline/training plan. We have a potty training plan. We have toys and a crate and are dusting off the old baby gates we kept around for this puppy eventuality.

And if this goes like the other times in my life small creatures (aka "Ryan," "Morgan," and "Sean") came into my home, I'm sure all of my lovely plans will have to change to a certain extent. :D

So. Saturday morning, we'll go and bring Penny Lane home and a new adventure begins! Stay tuned for pics (most of them will be on Facebook--hint hint to those of you related to me who are not on FB) and stories. And more light blogging--it seems as if puppies are not unlike toddlers and I'm going to be busy not sitting down here for a while.

In the meantime, enjoy another picture of Penny and (most of) her new family!


Thursday, August 09, 2012

My First CrossFit Competition

So, last Saturday, I participated in my very first CrossFit competition, and I'm here to tell you all about it.

In a word: FUN. In more words: More fun than running in a 5K, which is what I'd originally intended to do that day.

Now I just have to say, that doing this wasn't really my idea at all. Waaaay back at the beginning of the year, my CrossFit coach and friend--and owner of CrossFit Kennesaw, the awesomest box anywhere--Chris, just flat-out informed me that, by the way, I was going to do a competition this year. Obviously, he was talking crazytalk.

But it got me thinking . . . hmmmmm . . . . After all, I had never run in a 5K before last year, and I'd got several of those under my belt, and even though that involves running, they were still kind of fun to do. And so I pushed the idea into the Someday Maybe category in my head.

Then I did the Open and that decided me. Actually, it was 12.4 that made the difference. Somehow that day, I was the only person doing the Open WOD and I had my own personal cheering section. They were so awesome, and it was kind of thrilling to finally hit some good double-unders while everyone was cheering me on.

Chris suggested the Festivus Games as a good possibility for my first competition (there were a couple other competitions I'd considered, but I had other conflicts with the dates and times, so couldn't work it into my schedule). It seemed pretty perfect for me--the location was close by, the fee not too expensive, and the best part--it's a competition geared toward us regular people who CrossFit. Don't get me wrong, I love the firebreathers and I watched a lot of the CrossFit Games this year. So fun and inspiring! But I'm a regular firebreather, not an elite firebreather, and I liked the idea of competing with and against people who are more or less in the same firebreathing category as me.

I wrestled with the Perfectionism Monster a bit over whether I should sign up for the Novice or Intermediate division. I had all of the qualifications for Intermediate Women except for double-unders (my current nemesis). But I hesitated to sign up for Intermediate because, well, oh there were lots of excuses. Then I decided that I'd be pretty irritated with myself if I competed in the Novice division and did pretty well, because then I'd have to wonder how I'd have done as an Intermediate. So I chose possible humiliation over lingering regret and signed up as an Intermediate.

So I'd planned to kick my own butt especially hard in July and really train up for Festivus. And then Brendan's appendix happened and my gym schedule and eating suffered. And just as I was getting back on track, I freaking pulled my calf doing . . . yup . . . double-unders! Ten days before the competition, about 3 minutes into my workout, I hurt myself so badly I couldn't actually walk for a few days.

I was pretty bummed, but I also felt somewhat serene and at peace with what had happened. Maybe it's age or maturity or wisdom, call it what you will, but perspective is a lovely thing--there would be other competitions.

With rest and careful attention, I was up and walking again, and then back at the gym a few days later working on upper body stuff. The leg felt steadily better, and by about 4 days before the competition, I was able to run on it with no pain. Jumping was still a problem though, and Olympic lifting (that second pull involves a flexion of the calf muscles that hurt a lot).

By this point, Festivus had released the events, and I now planned to go and compete in the first two--the 2K row (I'd been rowing okay at the gym) and the deadlift. The chipper involved both burpees and double-unders, so that was off the table for me. Still, I looked forward to going and participating in at least part of the competition.

And then it occurred to me--those double-unders were at the end of the chipper round, and there were only 10 burpees. So the night before the competition, I had a new plan: compete in the chipper, and stop when I got to the double-unders, and just take a low score.

And that's what I did! I was scheduled to do the chipper first (in order to accommodate about 80 competitors, we were broken up into smaller groups and heats). Since that was the one I was most nervous about, I was happy to get it over with right away.

The chipper was as many rounds as possible in 10 minutes:
10 burpees
20 pull ups (unassisted in the Intermediate division)
30 sit ups
40 kettlebell swings (35#)
50 body weight squats
100 double-unders

I rocked out the burpees, no problem, and then got started on the pull ups. As I expected, I was the last one off the pull up bar. :D I can do them--just very slowly! After what felt like a thousand years, I moved on to sit ups and KBs, where I think I might have made up a tiny bit of time. I remember feeling really shocked to hear we still had four minutes left while I was in the middle of the kettlebells, because like I said, it took about a thousand years for me to do the pull ups! Knowing I had plenty of time left and that I wasn't going on to the double-unders, I slowed down a bit, and coasted through the rest of the event. I had a good minute or two left at the end in which I was super glad I hadn't put out  my jump rope, because I was pretty sure I wouldn't have been able to resist trying for a couple of double-unders.

So my score on the chipper was 150, and I tied for last place on that. No worries. I've been last before on a WOD and I'll be last again! And my calf felt fine.

I should mention that Brendan and the kids couldn't come and see my first competition. :( As it happened, he had developed a secondary infection after his appendix surgery, and spent all of last weekend resting and taking antibiotics and doing everything possible to avoid having a second surgery. Which he has done, yay! But I was happy that my powerlifting friend and his kids came by to cheer me on. I had my own cheering section, and they were super awesome, especially the youngest girl, who kept rubbing my shoulders and toweling off my sweaty neck. :D

I actually had a strategy for the rowing, something I stumbled on searching the internets. The plan was to keep a steady pace, something somewhat challenging, but doable. And every 500m or so, I was going to do 8-10 really strong pulls, like a mini-sprint, then settle back down to my pace. I planned to do the last 100m at the sprint pace, but I think I only had energy to do that for the last 60m or so. I told my strategy to my friends, who were SO great about cheering me on and reminding me that I had plenty of time to be tired AFTER the row was over.

I ended up getting a personal record on the 2K row, by quite a bit. Previous PR: 9:16. New PR: 8:30!!! Now you have to know that I am not, nor have I ever been, a distancey, endurancey type of person. Like ever. So to have done this is amazing to me. And 8:30 was fast enough to get me 4th place for this event. FOR REAL.

By the time I hit the deadlifts, I  was totally gassed out. My friend gave me lots of good coaching tips and strategies, and overall, the deadlift event was the most fun of the three. I really enjoy lifting, and there were tons of people just yelling and cheering. Very exciting stuff. I didn't PR, but got 245#, only 10 pounds less than my best lift ever. I definitely need a better strategy for loading the bar quickly, and counting. Because my friend caught me not loading the bar evenly (I'd warned him of my tendency to do that!). I tied for 13th in this event. One of my fellow competitors who goes to CrossFit Kennesaw tied for 2nd in this event--totally awesome! I was so excited for her!

Overall, I ended up 15th out of 20, and I am super proud of that! I KNOW I would have been mad at myself if I'd competed in the Novice division (where my scores would have put me in 3rd place for the row and 3rd place for the deadlift--I'd still have been last in the chipper due to not jumping rope).

It was a lot of fun, and it was great to meet many other people from CrossFit gyms in our area (and a few from outside of Georgia, too). I am definitely going to compete in similar competitions in the future. And hopefully I won't hurt myself right before so I can be healthy enough to compete in the whole thing. :)

Friday, July 27, 2012

Adventures in Diabetes: The Emergency Appendectomy Edition

What a week! Well, 10 days. Brendan is out of the hospital after breaking up with his appendix, and is on the mend, finally, though still moving slowly and definitely in the recuperation stage. He actually went back to work for a half day yesterday, and is there today for a half day. The kids and I are super happy to have him back with us, and things are calming down a bit here (we've all been a little stressed out).

And THANK YOU, everyone, for the thoughts and messages and help during the last week and a half. It's meant a lot to both of us.

Now that the dust has cleared a bit, I'm going to write up our experience with the hospital and medical care in some detail, along with some of the lessons we've learned for next time. Because this event was an extremely educational (in the "yippee mistakes" kind of way) experience.

If you weren't aware, Brendan has Type 1 (aka juvenile) diabetes. He was diagnosed in March 2001, a couple of months before he turned 30. (That's a whole story in and of itself--yes, you can get T1 diabetes when you're well into adulthood.) T1 is the kind of diabetes where your immune system kills off the beta cells in your pancreas. Sadly for you--if this happened to you, I mean--your beta cells are important to survival, since they produce insulin. So T1 is an autoimmune disease that leaves the patient dependent on insulin shots or a pump for the rest of his life.

T1 differs from T2 in many ways. (Keep in mind that I am not a doctor or nurse--this is a layman's explanation and should be taken as such.) T2 patients often (usually? It's been a while since I've explored this issue in-depth) produce some insulin on their own, and in fact, their main issue is that their cells become resistant to insulin, meaning their body doesn't use insulin efficiently. The other thing you need to know is that there are way more T2 diabetics than there are T1s--depending on which stats you find, T1s are about 5-10% of all diabetics.

Okay, here is what happened as best we can recall (Brendan's notes are in italics). Feel free to skip all of these details if they bore you and head straight for our Lessons Learned for Next Time section.


Doctor Visits

After several days of not feeling quite right, Brendan went to the doctor on the morning of Tuesday, July 17. The NP he saw suspected appendicitis and arranged for Brendan to have a CT done in the early afternoon. Brendan told me before he went to the CT that he hadn't taken his Lantus the night before, and he wanted me to know this in case it turned out to be relevant later on and he wasn't in a position to offer this information to any medical professional.

Okay, some definitions will be helpful here, for those who are uninitiated into the world of T1 diabetes. Lantus is a brand of long-lasting insulin that Brendan takes once a day, at night, to give himself a baseline of steady insulin throughout the day, mimicking how a fully functional pancreas works. He gives himself a dose of Humalog, which acts very quickly, each time he eats something. Also, BGL = blood glucose level.

The reason he hadn't taken Lantus the night before was because he hadn't really been eating due to feeling nauseous. He sugar was stable and in a normal range, and taking more insulin, even long-acting insulin, would mean running a risk that his blood sugar would drop low. (Brendan: Was also checking BGL every 1-2 hours and taking a correction bolus as needed.)


Okay, fast forward a few hours to The Emergency Room.

In the ER, awaiting surgery, both Brendan and I did what we thought we ought to do--we told everyone we saw that he is a Type 1 diabetic. We both assumed that this would be the primary information everyone needed in order to help him manage his blood sugar during his hospital visit. This was, as it turned out, an assumption based on some wrong/incomplete premises.

I asked an ER nurse if he needed an extra bracelet indicating his T1 status, and she said he didn't. (He wasn't wearing his Medic Alert bracelet, which I think we'll rectify should there be a next time, though I'm pretty convinced that it wouldn't have made too much difference in his care, unfortunately). I am used to wearing an extra bracelet that says "PCN, Sulfa" on it because I'm allergic to penicillin and sulfa drugs. I sort of figured that T1 diabetes was special enough to warrant some kind of extra warning (outside his chart).

He had his own blood sugar monitor and insulin with him in the ER. About 45 minutes before they took him back for the surgery, he checked and his sugar was 150. (In non-diabetics, BGL doesn't go above 140, and if it did go up that high, it would happen 1-2 hours after a meal.) For Brendan, 150 is a pretty good number, just a touch high. He took some Humalog, enough to get him down to about 120. He was being very conservative as there are risks to him going very low, too.

About 20 minutes before they took him back, a nurse hurried into the curtained pre-op area with a notebook and pen and asked him about his usual insulin ratios. Better late than never, but really, we were both baffled about why this information hadn't already been acquired, and I wondered why she didn't type this into his computerized chart.


After Surgery

I didn't see him directly after the surgery, since it was finished around 12:30am and I decided to go back home and be with the (very worried and sad) kids.

This is Brendan's memory of what happened in recovery:

"I came out of anesthesia the first time and told surrounding docs/nurses "I'm diabetic" (Response: "We'll take care of that"), "I feel nauseous"' (Response: "OK")."

The second time he "woke up," a little more coherent, he asked someone what his blood sugar was. The response: "You're diabetic?" Whoops.


About 7 Hours Postop

I arrived in Brendan's room the next morning to find two nurses working over him, and heard one say to the other "His blood sugar is 278." I was somewhat surprised to hear that it was that high and immediately wondered if he had a fever or something. Then I remembered that when Brendan is sick or when his body is under stress, his sugar tends to go way up. And what is surgery, if not massive physical stress? Still, I made a note of this number because I'm like that. I assumed that, when the nurses left the room a few minutes later, that they were off to get him some insulin for his IV in addition to whatever else they needed to do for him. Brendan thinks they may have given him 8 units of insulin after this, but I don't remember seeing them do this. We'll have to get a copy of his chart to know for sure.

Something else that's important to keep in mind: having high blood sugar makes it very very hard for any diabetic to fight off infections. Obviously, infection after surgery is a huge concern for everyone, and so that was part of the reason I assumed they were going to start correcting his blood sugar right away.

While waiting around and checking on Brendan, I looked at the bags hooked up to his IV. I noted some kind of "-cillin" and thought "Yay! Antibiotics!" The surgeon told me that the appendix had begun to rupture, so some antibiotics were definitely a good thing. I noticed a bag of fluids containing potassium chloride--again, to be expected that fluids and electrolytes probably need replacing after surgery--and I also noted the words "Dextrose 5%" on the bag.

I mentioned this to Brendan, because it's important for him to be aware that things going into his body have sugar in them, even in dilute or small amounts. Especially when he is already at 278.

Brendan: "This was good to know, but the problem was that there was no way to know how much Lantus was needed to counteract that." (Sadly, he wouldn't be getting Lantus for a long time anyway.)

I left him his monitor (in the case was an extra needle with Humalog in it), figuring he might want to check his sugar on his own in addition to whatever the nurses were doing.


12 Hours Postop

When I left after that first visit, I was a little concerned about the blood sugar, the implications for infection and his overall recovery (not to mention simply how he felt--high blood sugar makes him feel awful--sleepy, out of it, sometimes nauseous, headachy--none of which would be fun to have while in recovery from the appendectomy). But I still thought his blood sugar was being monitored and managed.

When I came back around lunch, I was horrified to learn that his blood sugar was 377, and that he had been the only one monitoring this at all! While I was in the room, he showed the nurse the number 377 on the monitor and she went off to find him some insulin.

After a 30 minute wait, she came back with the insulin and started to push it into his IV. Brendan interrupted this process to inquire how much she was giving him and she told him 18U, 8U to cover his basal rate and 10U for the food that was sitting on a tray (uneaten) next to him. He told her to give him 10U only, because he hadn't eaten yet and wasn't planning to eat the jello, juice, energy drink or other carb-filled items in front of him until his blood sugar was lower. She then said that his ratios (hastily obtained in the ER at the last minute, remember?) indicated he should get 8U for a basal. Note: she was going to give him Humalog, the short-acting stuff, not the long-acting stuff which is normally what he takes for a basal rate. He talked her into 10U, explaining that when his sugar goes this high, the ratio of insulin he needs to take actually changes. She complied with his request.

Brendan: "In hindsight here, I probably should have taken the full 18. But I was trying to be conservative and come down slowly."

We brought up our concern about the high blood sugar, and the IV fluids in a dextrose solution, and reminded her that he hadn't had any Lantus in about 36 hours. She told us that they were mainly concerned with him going too low at this point (they were also fussing at him for not eating anything).

Brendan explained how this was literally impossible, not having had nearly enough (or possibly any) insulin at all in the past day, since, you know, he is a T1 diabetic and doesn't make his own. It was around this point I began to realize they had no clue how to manage his blood sugar.

So I asked her how often they were checking his blood sugar. She said the protocol was right before meals and twice a day. Later that day, the surgeon told Brendan his protocol was "every six hours." Neither of these is appropriate for a T1 diabetic who is in the high 300s, even if you are worried he might take too much insulin and go too low.

We complained to her, and Brendan explained how the fluids he was getting were also contributing to the high blood sugar. He explained that the fluids and electrolytes he was receiving were really making him more dehydrated. How was this possible? When your blood sugar is crazy high, you starting peeing a lot and get dehydrated (two of the main signs of diabetes are peeing a lot and uncontrollable thirst). The fluids he was receiving intravenously were flowing out of him very quickly, which means he wasn't being hydrated at all. On top of which, the dextrose solution was helping his blood sugar continue to rise, making this issue worse and worse. A vicious cycle.

This nurse, who I really liked, thought about what Brendan said, and kind of nodded her head. Then she turned off the fluid drip, keeping only the antibiotics going through his IV. She told us she would check with a doctor about the IV fluids and the dextrose solution. I loved her because she was very patient, truly tried to understand what we were explaining to her, and most of all, because she used her own judgment in a situation that was being dictated by "hospital protocol." We were lucky to have her for most of Brendan's stay at the hospital.

I should mention that at this point postop, he was literally gasping for breath and in extreme pain. I should further mention another symptom/result of high blood sugar--it's hard to breathe deeply. You know how you're supposed to cough and breathe deeply after surgery to clear your lungs out? He literally couldn't do that, in part because of the high blood sugar. But you need your lungs clear due to the risk of pneumonia, something that is more dangerous for diabetics--especially those with really high blood sugar! Another vicious cycle which goes away in the presence of normal (or even normal-ish) blood sugar levels.

Later during this visit, Brendan gave himself a shot of his own Humalog from home. He did this in front of the nurse, and I'm sure she noted both his blood sugar and the fact that he gave himself a shot in his chart. This is not something I am especially recommending--in fact, I should state for legal reasons probably that I am NOT recommending this. It is against hospital policy for patients to administer their own meds from home, and this is a good policy because they want to be aware of/in control of all of the medications their patients receive while there (and while they are liable).

But in this case, he needed to get his sugar under control right the eff away, and since they were apparently unable to do this in a timely manner, he took matters into his own hands. He did it with full transparency and knowledge of the nurses and doctors. He did it right in front of them and was careful to tell them what he was doing and how much insulin he was giving himself. I personally think that if you choose to disregard such rules, then the way to do it is openly and obviously.


The Surgeon

Brendan saw surgeon later that afternoon and complained. Sadly, I wasn't there for this meeting.

He was still around 380 at that time (he was checking using his own monitor and shooting himself up with insulin--Humalog, he still didn't have the requested Lantus from the nurses, though I'd brought him some from home but he was so out of it he forgot that I told him I'd brought it.)

If he hadn't been taking his own insulin, I guarantee he'd have been well on his way to 500 at that point. (Brendan: "600 BGL is where diabetics can start to become comatose.") The highest I can remember him ever being outside of his initial diagnosis was in the mid-400s. At 380--after he took his own insulin of his own accord--he was quite close to some of the worst highs he's ever experienced.

The surgeon, who I really do think was more than competent to manage the safe removal of the appendix, explained to Brendan that his (the surgeon's) protocol for diabetics was to check BGL every six hours. He had 15 years of experience and had had success with this protocol with other diabetics and he told Brendan that they could manage Brendan's blood sugar better than he could at this point.

To which Brendan responded: "We can already see that's not true." (It is very important for me to note that Brendan got this line from the "Out of Gas" episode of Firefly.)

There was some back and forth, and according to Brendan, the doc was very "stubborn" and would not formally allow Brendan to manage his own monitoring and insulin delivery. He did finally agree to have an endocrinologist come and do a consultation. (Brendan's "stubborn," too, heh.) However, the endo would probably not be able to visit until the next day. I'm pretty sure my head spun around on my neck when Brendan told me over the phone that the endo wouldn't be there until the next morning.


Endocrinology Consultation

An endocrinologist met with Brendan around 5:00pm the very same day, fortunately. He had planned to continue to manage his own insulin and blood sugar level monitoring anyway (again, in front of the nurses and making sure they had all of the information he could give them). But it was nice to see the endo right away because . . .

She completely rewrote all of his diabetes-related orders, giving him full and complete control of monitoring his blood sugar and managing his insulin! And got him some Lantus pretty quickly, too!

Basically, she gave him formal permission to do what he was doing anyway. Which is good for the nurses, too, because I'm sure having a non-compliant patient is A.) a pain in their butts and B.) a liability issue.

She also ordered a different kind of IV fluid/electrolyte solution that did not contain dextrose, and that he get a sugar-free diet to eat.

She made him promise not to strive for super tight control at this point (not that he was going for this at all, or would have), and do all the rest of the stuff the nurses wanted him to do, including eat.

Brendan: "I was back down to 140 by that evening, and stayed there since, except for a brief peak at 211 when they put me back on regular (non-diabetic) meals. Most of these meals had prepackaged items, but few of those had carb info. I had to specifically ask for the info, which would take hours to get back to me, if it ever came at all. And then they'd wonder why I wasn't eating. And then I'd tell them."


Lessons Learned for Next Time

That is our very, very long story. We have a couple of take-aways should Brendan ever go into the hospital or emergency care again for something not directly related to diabetes.

Insist on an endocrinology consultation right away. Seriously, that will be the second thing out of our mouths (the first thing will be an explanation of the reason for the hospital visit, of course). Once the endo visited and wrote the diabetes orders to Brendan's specifications, all was puppies and rainbows, both for Brendan and the hospital staff.


Ask the doctor and hospital staff to explain their T1 diabetes protocol in detail, before being admitted, if possible. That would have been great to know from the beginning--both that the surgeon and the nurses had different protocols they were following, and that neither was appropriate for this T1 diabetic (or indeed, most T1 diabetics--every six hours? Really?). Even outside of an endocrinologist to rewrite orders, we could have set things up in such a manner to have mitigated some of the high blood sugar issues had we known what their protocols were and understood how completely inappropriate they would be to manage Brendan's blood sugar.


Do not assume that saying "He has Type 1 Diabetes" conveys all of the information we think it conveys.  T1 diabetes is not extremely rare, but it is probably super common either. And it is important to recognize that the vast majority of diabetics the nurses and docs encounter are T2 diabetics, and their blood sugar management is very, very different from T1s. Also I think it's possible that most nursing and hospital staff are used to dealing with diabetics as diabetics--meaning the person is in for a diabetes-related complication. So when the patient is there for something else--an appendix or broken leg--diabetes as such just isn't going to be at the forefront of what they're thinking about when they are delivering care. So keep this in mind.


Order the sugar-free meals from the cafeteria, and insist on carb counts for all of the non-labeled food. And prepare to wait for a LONG time for them to get back to you with carb info. Still, when they call you or come get your menu choices from you during your stay, say "sugar-free diet" every time.


Assume positive intent. Always always always, in all areas of life. This was so super frustrating (and I was terribly worried, I can't even tell you how much) but I always remembered that they were doing their best and were not trying to actively harm him. This made our conversations with them much more effective, especially those conversations where we were explaining to them that they were actually harming him.


Be stubborn, and be an active participant in your own (or your loved one's) care. This is not specific to the diabetes stuff at all, just a good general piece of advice for anyone going into a hospital or dealing with an acute or chronic illness. INSIST on what you know is right and DO it. Repeat yourself to anyone who will listen. Say it again and again and again, until you find someone who will listen. Notice things for yourself--I noticed the dextrose solution and that was good information to have. Brendan was in no position to notice it for himself, and the hospital clearly didn't think it was a big deal. Brendan refused to eat food he knew would exacerbate his blood sugar issues, even though they fussed and fussed and fussed at him to do it. Don't be passive; question what they are doing and why; find out more information; make them tell you, each time.


Oh! Thought of another one: Monitor your own blood sugar at the hospital. Bring your monitor and strips and use them if possible, or have a loved one take your blood sugar. Because Brendan was constantly checking, he was able to spur the staff toward getting his insulin a little quicker. He had objective evidence that he needed more insulin, and the nurses, especially the one we really liked, used that information. It makes me feel slightly nauseous to think how high he might have gotten if he hadn't been actively monitoring (every 1-2 hours that first day). Anyway, don't wait for them--they are busy and everything takes a really long time (Corollary: Be aware that it will take forever for them to bring you insulin and factor that in to your monitoring plans and insulin dosage). You know how quickly blood sugar can rise and drop, so stay on top of it, especially if you think they aren't monitoring often enough.


That's all for now. I may edit this post from time to time as we think of more details (if you spoke to me while this was all going on and remember something I told you but didn't note here, please jog my memory!).

We really really want others to learn from our experience. If you have other advice and tips, I'd love to hear them in the comments! Thanks.

Friday, July 20, 2012

Life Is What Happens To You While You're Busy Making Other Plans

It'll be pretty light posting for a bit. Brendan had an emergency appendectomy late Tuesday night and is still in the hospital as of this writing. Hoping to get him home today or tomorrow. We still don't know what to expect in terms of recovery time or how long he'll be out of work.

He is doing fine, but having him in the hospital has been really hard on the kids. And I know it's not quite the same thing, but I am vividly reminded of how much fun it was to recover from those c-sections. Only at least we got to bring home a baby each time. Giving birth to an appendix isn't quite as thrilling, so there's no happy thing to balance out the suckage.

On the bright side, at least one of us has met their deductible this year! :/ And we'll get some quality time together while he is recuperating at home, too.

Bye for now!

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Objectivist Round Up: The Final Edition



Welcome to the July 19, 2012 edition--the 261st edition--the FINAL EDITION--of the Objectivist Round Up!

It has been a terrific five years. FIVE WHOLE YEARS of near-weekly editions of this blog carnival--quite a milestone!

I just wanted to take a minute to thank some of the people who contributed to the success of this carnival. The first edition was published on July 19, 2007 by Kim, who started the carnival, so thank you for coming up with the idea in the first place and getting the ball rolling! (In August of that year, I took over and have been managing the ORU ever since.) I was able to easily reach bloggers who could submit posts and host because of Diana's OBloggers list, so thank you, Diana for creating that resource for us.

Thank you to EVERYONE who sent in posts, and especially those of you who took turns hosting the carnival. I do very much appreciate your time and effort in sending out reminders and putting together the carnival post. You all well know the, ah, issues we had sometimes getting the edition out each week, so the Thanks-But-No-Thanks award goes to Blog Carnival itself. Sigh. :)

I am immensely proud of the work we've all done with the carnival, and proud of my work to keep it going. It has been a labor of love (sometimes, more labor than love--thanks again, Blog Carnival!), a small way in which I could do my part to change the culture for the better. I am not giving up on activism at all, and in fact, part of the reason I am ending the ORU at this time is so that I can free up just a bit more of my personal time to work on my other projects.

I usually include an Ayn Rand quotation in the introduction of each carnival, and today I'll make this last one short and sweet. These are words I truly believe, and truly try to live by, each and every day:

" . . . anyone who fights for the future, lives in it today."

So, I encourage all of you fans of the Objectivist Round Up to fight on, and fight hard. And stay in touch--I'm not really going anywhere!

Thanks again, everyone!



Martin Lindeskog presents INDEPENDENCE DAY posted at EGO, saying, "TeaParty.nu had an online house-warming party on July 4, 2011. This year, I created a "mental moodboard" for my next visit to the Land of Opportunity - the United States of America. Please check out my new Tumblr tumblelog, AtlasAnd, and the reblogged post, Happy Independence Day."



Diana Hsieh presents Hello: The Social Equalizer posted at Philosophy in Action, saying, "The telephone was a great social equalizer, and thank goodness for that!"



Edward Cline presents Thomas Ricks Wants Your Kids posted at The Rule of Reason, saying, "Just when you thought the government was finished scheduling your life and mapping out how you can become an exemplar of gung-ho "giving back" citizenship, another Pulitzer Prize winner concocts still another scheme to best exploit your life, time, and energies."



Paul Hsieh presents Health Care Sharing Ministries posted at We Stand FIRM, saying, "People can devise innovative solutions for health care coverage when government gets out of the way."



Jared Rhoads presents Self-insurers are not free-riders posted at The Center for Objective Health Policy, saying, "In the name of eliminating "free-riding," the individual mandate leaves no room for legitimate self-insuring. The mandate is a blunt policy instrument that lumps together those who would prefer to save and pay for their care out-of-pocket with those who save nothing and show up to their local emergency room expecting free care. That's unjust."



James Hughes presents The Light of the World; Temple of the Human Spirit posted at Temple of the Human Spirit, saying, "Reason is the Light of the World"



Jim Woods presents The Cult of Thrasymachus posted at Selfish Citizenship, saying, "From Plato's Republic, Thrasymachus' misconceptions of justice have become central to American political discourse when justice is misstated as what is good for the strong, a mob of 50% plus one."



John Drake presents Time Enough for My Friends posted at Try Reason!, saying, "Even if you pursue your central purpose in life, you have time enough for friends, family, hobbies, and more. It's all about establishing your hierarchy of values."



Earl Parson presents Thank you, Jenn. posted at Creatures of Prometheus, saying, "My thank-you note to the hostess." [Thanks, Earl! This note meant a lot to me!]



Earl Parson presents John Lautner Tour: Schwimmer House, 1982 posted at Creatures of Prometheus, saying, "Celebrating what would have been master modernist architect John Lautner's 101st birthday this week, I summarize my visit to his Schwimmer House (1982) from last summer."



Jason Stotts presents Aporia: Sexual Orientation  posted at Erosophia , saying, "Just a post trying to make sense of the questions surrounding sexual orientation."



Rachel Miner presents Romantic "Extras": The Fun Work of Keeping a Romantic Relationship Vibrant posted at The Playful Spirit, saying, "I share the details of the talk I gave at ATLOSCon. This is fun stuff and I'd love to hear about the things that you have done to make your partner feel super special too. It's great to share ideas and I hope you find the post useful."



Jenn Casey presents CrossFit Update at Rational Jenn, saying, "Here is an update on my progress at CrossFit. When I first began CrossFit, I viewed it as merely a fitness program. It has since changed from "exercise regimen" to "hobby" to "passion" for me, and has become a large part of my life. So I'm excited to share my progress and goals for the future!"



And that concludes this carnival!  :D

Links to past posts can be found (as long as Blog Carnival keeps it together) on our blog carnival index page. I will be creating some kind of archived link to the old editions soon, so that we will always have a way to link to them after Blog Carnival's inevitable demise.





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